The Seattle Times
May 7, 2006

Q: I have been hearing about the increasing number of "cyberstalkers" who prowl the Web. As an avid user of networking sites such as MySpace and several Internet dating sites, how can I protect myself from being stalked or harassed?

L.S., Los Angeles, Calif.

A: "Cyberstalking" is characterized by a stalker relentlessly pursuing his or her victim online. The perpetrator is likely to try to meet with and harass the victim in person as well.

Cyberstalking is on the rise. Today, most states � including Washington � have laws addressing the problem. Washington's law, passed in 2004, defines cyberstalking and classifies it as either a gross misdemeanor or felony, depending on the circumstances. President Bush also recently signed new federal legislation against cyberstalking.

Follow these steps to maintain your privacy as you communicate online:

� Use services with background checks. Some new dating sites perform background checks on everyone who uses them. For example, the dating site www.true.com says it will conduct a check on anyone seeking to make a connection, and claims it will prosecute anyone who misrepresents themselves on the site.

� Conduct your own background checks. If the site does not provide this service, try to learn more about someone by checking public records, such as marriage certificates, felony convictions, real-estate documents and so forth. If you are really concerned, don't continue the online relationship.

� Don't reveal your real name or other personal information in your posting. Instead, select a username, which is a unique word or phrase that may describe your personality or what you're looking for in a match. Your username should not correspond in any way to your e-mail address.

� Protect your personal information. Be cautious about revealing it until you are comfortable with the person you are e-mailing.

� Communicate carefully. When you are ready to communicate outside the security of the online-dating service, continue to be cautious. Use your cellphone to make the call, or, if you make the call from a landline, sign up with your phone company for call blocking beforehand so your number won't appear.

Eric Gertler, United Feature Syndicate

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